We all want the perfect wedding. Girls, especially, dream about the day from the time that they are young. Everything has to be just so and they end up getting themselves all stressed out because things aren’t going according to plan. What’s the point of getting crazy about your wedding and making sure everything is just right, if you aren’t even going to be able to enjoy it. The truth is, in the end, you aren’t going to care if you used the 20 inch sparklers or the 36 inch sparklers at a wedding sparkler send off; you aren’t going to care if you served chicken or fish; you are going to remember the beautiful and romantic moments between you and your spouse. And those, you can not plan for. So, here are a few tips for making sure you enjoy your big day.

Plan, plan and then let it be
Yes, you should plan and plan to your heart’s content. Buy sparklers and choose chicken and alter your dress; pick the flowers, search for a venue and decide on your departing vehicle. The more you plan, the better the wedding will be. But, once you get to your actual wedding day- stop! No more planning, no more choices, no more anything. You have planned all that you can and if you forgot to do something then it probably wasn’t that important anyway. Forget everything and just enjoy your wedding day. The idea is you’ll never have another day like this, so you need to look back on it with fond memories. You want the memories of your wedding day to warm your heart, not stress you out.

Designate a runner, just in case
Now, in the unlikely even that something you forgot is actually incredibly important, you should designate someone to be your ‘runner’ on the day of. For example, say the sparklers for the wedding sparkler send off get left at the church when you all go to the reception; shoot the runner a text and have them go get it for you. But once you send the text, go back to being present with your spouse. Choose someone that you are close to but is not in the wedding to be the runner. It needs to be someone you can trust to get things done. This way, when you tell them to do something, you know it’s going to get done and you don’t have to think about it anymore.

Let people help you
It’s easy to be a control freak when it comes to planning your wedding. You know exactly what you want and everyone else just seems to be getting it wrong. People are going to offer their help; you should take it. Even if you have to be very specific as to what you want and how you want things done, that’s ok, just accept the help. You can delegate duties and be as specific as you want. Don’t worry about being a bridezilla. Anyone that thinks you are being that, doesn’t realize that this day is about you and not them. Those who truly want to help you have the perfect day will not have a problem with you being a little bossy and overbearing about what you want.

Stick to your budget
You will probably have decided on a budget before hand, so make sure that you stick to it. Money is one of the most stressful things in the world, so you don’t want to be looking around your wedding and thinking ‘We can’t afford this.’ Even if you have to compromise certain things, in order to stick to the budget, it’s important to do that. If it comes to that, make a list of the things you want most and the stuff you don’t want to compromise on and then cut back on everything else in order to let you have the few things that you always dreamed of. If you prefer a wedding sparkler send off rather than rice but it’s not as crucial as arriving at the ceremony in a horse and carriage; forego the wedding sparkler send off and figure out a cheaper alternative so you can have your fairy tale arrival.